Tempus Omnia Sanat*

Five years ago we put an offer in on a house and it was accepted.  The following day another realtor called us and said, "You need to see a different house."  So we did.

As I walked through the second house I became more and more nauseous.  My husband, who LOVED the house couldn't figure out why I didn't, apparently, share his enthusiasm.

Finally we walked into the formal living room together and shut the door.

"Well?" he asked.

"I love it." I said mournfully.

"What's wrong?" he asked. 

"Now we have to get out of the other house." I told him.  And then I started worrying - more like obsessing - for 36 hours.  I lay awake all night.  I threw up.  I had chest pains.  And then my husband called the first realtor and told her that we'd changed our mind and it was done.

This summer when I thought we had bedbugs the same thing happened.  I couldn't eat.  I couldn't sleep.  I had heartburn.  I had chest pains.  And then I found out we only had crabs and I rejoiced.

And this week there's been a family issue happening that's really bringing me down - despite the corporate success and I'm trying to remember that in 5 years it will be resolved and I don't need to obsess about it.  Whatever will happen, will happen whether I make myself sick about it or not.

So let's do a little exercise.  Take a minute to think of something that's been taking up too much of your emotional energy that you can't control and remind yourself that at some point, it will be history, and making yourself sick about it is NOT helping your ability to deal with it.

Okay, now remind me.

#wineparty, 9pm eastern.

* Time Heals All

 

Comments

[Becca]

Thanks for this, I know I have been having those gut-involved upheavals lately and I needed the reminder! In 5 years, which issues are still going to matter?

[Gamanda]

God I wish it were that flipping easy for me. I just make myself sick with the worrying and waiting for resolve...which is exactly what I've been doing about my second job for the last week. If only I were one of those who couldn't eat when stressed.
To add insult to injury, I'm always on-call Friday nights so I can't even participate fully with wine part.

::pity party over::

[Misty @ The Family Math]

Thanks for the timely reminder. I've got a few stressful things on my plate at the moment, but you are right. Once a little time passes, these things won't really matter that much.

[Jaimie]

yes. great reminder... now if only i can get my nerves to agree... going to try to be at #wineparty ... but it goes to fast to NOT use tweetdeck, & my computer HATES tweetdeck...ugh

[Craftwhack]

So true, so true, so true. So hard to not obsess over certain stupid things and then spiral downnnnnnnnnnnnn. Ick.

[TheQueen]

As we say in my house: "You don't have a problem until you have a problem." Potential problems such as "We might not make the plane" or "We'll be eating cat food when we retire" are dismissed that way.

[Brooke]

I've been spending some time stressing over a recent problem, but the thing is...this problem won't ever go away. I'm stuck with it until the day I die. I am trying to chill out and tell myself there is nothing I can do about it and things will be okay, but it's hard. Most days I'm fine, and then I have a bad day or moment and all I can do is cry about it. I am not the only one with this problem, and many say it does get better, but right now I'm having a hard time seeing how it can get better.

[CTMom]

I had the same situation with our first (and only) house. Add that I was 6 months pregnant and hormonal, and you know how that goes. We are in the same house now for 14 years. I am also dealing with a stressful situation, which solution is painful no matter which direction I go. Somedays I'm good. Other days I cry. Then I pick myself up and move on. This too shall pass. I made it through the last 3 months, I can keep going. Focus on the positive. Move forward as best I can. Good news: at least I lost 13 lbs over the stress :)