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May 03, 2010


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A few things I'd say

1) Listen to Kit. She seems to know what she's talking about, and has given you a great, well-thought out response covering all bases.

2) Talk to him. The one thing you need to do more than anything is talk and open up an honest dialogue on this. If you don't... you'll both start resenting each other and reminiscing so much about what you've lost that you forget what you've still got.

3) Get one of those doting new grandparents to take the baby for the weekend and get away. No pressure to have sex, just to be together and relax. And catch up on sleep. Because no one is at their sexiest when they're sleep-deprived.

Oh, and did I say listen to Kit?

Kristin Glasbergen

I had the same thing with both of my pregnancies/babies. I think it's just how it goes. Kit is right there could be medical thing and it's a good idea to talk to a dr. Sex is hottest when you are ovulating!! Your body got the job done and is now focusing on growing that baby. When your period is back to normal and your body is ready to 'breed' again the drive will come back. It sucks and you do need to talk to your husband about it. It will end. Now that the baby making is done at our house, it's gooc times all around.

Deanna Hernandez-Arza

I agree with Kit...You have alot going on right now..Speak with your doctor and your husband


I totally agree with Kit... Dr 1st, then talk, get a vib. and some smut. When you have some random down time (naps)take advantage. The more you do, the more you'll want to and then you can get back on track with your hubs. Babies to tend to transform marriages... but that doesn't have to be bad. Just relax and things will work out.


Sext! there's a reason all those highschool kids are pawing each other all the time!

send him a naughty little message or even a sexy picture. the thrill might get you going and the anticipation of his response will keep you thinking sexily all day. and then when you finally get your alone time together, you'll have had a full day of mental foreplay.


Dear NoSex McGee,

Are you breastfeeding? I ask because that can have your hormone levels fluctuating and be keeping your libido low. The good news is that if this is the case, once you wean your little one, things tend to even back out and your sex drive comes back.

Otherwise, Kit had some great advice. Hope things work out!


I totally agree with Kit and the others. Kristin Glasbergen and downloadable08 have good points. Breastfeeding suppresses ovulation. No ovulation often causes low libido. The only other thing I would add is maybe look for brief opportunities to grab a quick cuddle or mini makeout session to reconnect physically throughout the day.

No name

#6 made me giggle because there are times I'm not up to it and I'm only providing visual stimulation by laying there doing my own thing (reading, relaxing, or tv) and then I'm pounced upon...too much visual stimulation *sigh*

Back on topic: I second visiting your gyn/ob

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