I'm going to start by saying two things:
The first is that I support gay marriage.
I support gay marriage because homosexuality doesn't bother me, because I'm a libertarian and I'd like the government to STFU on most things and because I don't subscribe to someone else's religious doctrine.
The second thing is that NOTHING pisses me off more than when someone lies to stay on moral high ground. After my (then boyfriend) husband and I had bought a house and moved in together we discovered we were pregnant. We were thrilled but nervous about the way our Catholic families would react. And rightly so. It may as well have been 1802 instead of 2002. My sister in law "handled" our sin by lying to her children and telling them that we had gotten married when they went to Disney World. Their feelings were incredibly hurt, they were darn confused about the replicate wedding that happened 7 months later - but dammit all if they didn't believe that we didn't have premarital sex.
On Friday, my 7yo daughter came home and asked me, "Mommy, can two women make a baby?"
I've been putting off the where babies come from discussion for a month or so, so this question made me gulp a bit but I answered her, "No."
"Are you sure?" she asked.
"yes." I told her.
"What if they get married? Because they can get married in Massachusetts you know."
"I know." I told her. "But even if they get married, they can't make a baby together. They can adopt a baby, or they can borrow from a man so that one of them can get pregnant - but they can't make a baby together."
"THAT'S WHAT I TOLD HER!" she exclaimed.
Ugh. "Um, told who?" I asked.
"Jenny." she said. "She told me that she didn't have a daddy and that she had two mommies and that her mommies made her so I told her that was impossible."
At which point I basically started expecting the phone to ring and to find two VERY pissed off lesbians on the other side.
I took a deep breath. "Well, I told her, there are different ways to be a parent. You have a mommy and a daddy and Jenny has two mommies and there is a boy around the corner who also has two mommies, and when I was little grandma didn't have a husband so I ONLY had one parent - and we're all parents but in terms of science it takes a boy and a girl to make a baby."
And I'm still expecting the phone to ring.
They'll understand when I tell them I'm an engineer and science trumps sociology, right?