Last week a friend was texting me about a stranger that they were observing in a public place.
By his account, the stranger was behaving like a self absorbed, entitled ASS and yet I was still disappointed by my friend's story.
Not because I felt bad for the ass. I totally didn't. If you're going to go out in public and act like an ass you should be prepared for people to call you an ass.
But because my friend was getting sucked into that person's negativity.
I hate that.
I have a relative who focuses on the negative in everything around her to make herself feel better - and it's toxic. It's so bad I can hardly have a conversation with her because I want to say, "If your friend is so stupid, stop being friends with her. But don't call her your friend and stupid in the same breath! Being a hypocrite is worse than being dumb!"
Via text it was hard to redirect my friend's attention from the ass but I wanted to.
I wanted to call him up and say, "Let it go. Treat him like an inconvient stop light that you didn't think twice about. He's not worth it. You have better things to do."
Negativity is a choice. Choose something else.
You have better things to do.
AGREED. Whole heartedly agreed.
Posted by: Sarah | June 19, 2012 at 11:18 PM
Observation is one thing, indulgence is another.
Posted by: Marty Coleman, The Napkin Dad | June 20, 2012 at 07:15 AM
Wow, very nice post and so needed in our society. We do have a choice who we associate with and what we put our focus on. Thanks for this reminder.
Posted by: James Moffitt | June 20, 2012 at 07:39 AM
Zapians group is being a perfect example of a method that has used Complexity to inspire and justify its approach to many of the common problems we face in Software development.
Posted by: Software Development Company | June 29, 2012 at 01:46 PM
When I notice that I am having thoughts in regards to what other people might think of me, I just remind myself that I may be self-centered in that moment.
I generally don't worry about what people think of me unless that person has some type of direct influence in my life.
Posted by: Software Development Company | September 21, 2012 at 07:26 AM