Good Girls Finish Last

Mama always said that I should be a good girl - and I believed her - until now.

This week has shown me that good girls finish last.  And loud, strong, proud girls finish first.

My friend Diana was nearly bullied into giving up her pregnancy - at 18+ weeks - because her doctors thought that by pressuring her, they could free up a bed.  Wow, were they wrong.

A couple of months ago I was asked by a coworker to take over a sale he was working on because he was too busy working on something more profitable.  The customer is a pain in the behind and I wanted to say no but that wouldn't have been very team-oriented of me so I did it.  And we are about to sign the contract and my coworker just swooped back in and agreed to give me 25% of the credit.

And my boss thought that it sounded sort of unfair because I did all of the work but he didn't want to make waves.

So I made them for him.

I told him that if I got anything less than 100% I was going to go to his boss's boss's boss for clarity on the policy around ownership.  Oh, and by the way, the boss's boss's boss had helped me WIN the sale so I'm SURE he would't discount the effort we had put into it.

And boy did he change his tune in a hurry.  The "good girl" was going to get 25% but this loud, proud, strong girl will get 100%.

And Diana, well, she and her boys will get as much of a chance as possible.

Because she was loud, proud and strong.

 

 

Comments

[Deanna @ The Unatural Mother]

LOVE. THIS. POST. Gotta stuck up for yourself or no one will!

[John]

There's a difference between a "good girl" and a "demure girl."

Too often, I think society thinks that a woman is best seen & not heard . . . that they should just do whatever the heck is decided for them & smile about it. And that's bullshit.

I'm glad you stood up for yourself and that it's going to be of great benefit for you . . . but I don't know that I'd call you any of a "good girl" because of it.

As for Diana . . . that's a travesty and a half - a case of emotionless doctors who just don't know how to think or act or behave. I'm glad Diana stood up - and I'm glad the social media wave followed.

[Ranch Mama]

Indeed! What a gift it is that so many can stand together and support each other. I'm living vicariously through Diana and am praying and pulling for her. I'm glad she has friends like you, Kit!

And well done! Did your co-worker forget what decade he was working in? How dare he!

[carolyn]

And I thought Bad Girls were just good in the bedroom!

[Sandy]

Good for both of you!!

[Bethany]

This semi-good girl has her own story of empowerment! The women in my family have a LONG history of being strong... except when it comes to the men in our lives. So much so that I didn't date AT ALL in my 20s because I was scared silly that I would make the same mistakes.

When I turned 30 last year, i realized how much time I'd lost not looking for someone to share my life with, and I started dating.

And TODAY I realized that I am not my mother and I am not my sister. I broke up with a perfectly good boyfriend because he was not what I was looking for. And quite frankly, the only thing he'd been lately was a good lay - we'd stopped talking for reasons that neither of us seem to be able to explain.

After I finally bit the bullet and ditched the boyfriend, I immediately accessed Amazon through your website and ordered myself a Lelo Ina vibrator that I'd been eyeing for months. I can provide my OWN pleasure AND - more importantly - my own happiness.

I am happy, I am NOT my mother, and I have control over my life.

[Hania Whitfield]

And the sooner we stop referring to ourselves as "girls" maybe we'll learn sooner. And how many of us still are referred to as "the girls" by the men in the workplace? Don't know about you, but I haven't been a "girl" since grade school. So yes, I was once a "good girl" too, but now I'm a brassy, classy woman at work and a lady everywhere else.

Yup, good girls do finish last, but professional confident women rise to the top!

[Sidney]

Good girl! This made my morning. Nice reminder not to settle for less than you deserve...